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Wedding Traditions

Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue and a copper penny in your shoe!  Have you ever wondered why a bride wears a veil?  Why people throw rice at newlyweds?  Why its called a honeymoon when neither you nor your fiancée is named Honey?  Virtually every part of a wedding, from the engagement to the honeymoon, has rich history.  Cultural roots, ancestry and religious beliefs have shaped marriages for thousands of years.  The following descriptions will provide you with a brief history of various wedding elements.  It is a pretty good bet you'll see some of them at your wedding, and for years to come.  So read on to get the inside scoop on how they came about.

Why a wedding ring?  As far back as literature documents weddings, the wedding ring has been in evidence.  Some believe the wedding ring was the first element of wedding traditions.  The circular shape of the wedding ring symbolizes never-ending love. Third finger, left hand?  It is believed that the vein in the third finger of the left hand runs directly to the heart.

Why does the bride where a veil?  Many moons ago it was believed that a veil would protect the bride form evil spirits. Today the white veil is a symbol of modesty.

Why does the bride wear white?  In Colonial times a bride often wore her "Sunday best" to her wedding.  It was not until the 1840's, when Queen
Victoria was married in a white wedding gown that "white gowns" became the rage.  White is also a symbol of affluence, purity and joy.  Today, brides can choose many shades of white, from bright white to champagne.

Why carry flowers?  Historically, flowers & herbs have played a significant role in the attraction of "good" and/or the warding off "evil".  Greeks used ivy for the sign of lasting love.  Today, wedding flowers convey a message of fertility and enduring love and romance.

Why something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue?  To insure a happy and lasting marriage, a bride should carry something old from someone who has been married for a long time and something new, to carry into her new life.  Something borrowed, "borrowed happiness", something blue, "the color blue has been associated with purity and modesty".  A penny in your shoe, place a penny in your shoe to bring good fortune and protection against want.

Why is a white runner used?  The white runner, signifies a pure pathway into happiness.  Rose petals in the bride's path lead her to a sweet and plentiful future.

Why is the bride given away?  In days of old, the bride was literally given to the groom in an arranged marriage.  Today "giving away" is seen as symbolic of her parent's support for her union.

Why is the ceremony sealed with a kiss?  Occurring at the end of the ceremony, the kiss announces a new union and married status.

Why is there a wedding cake?  It is a symbol of good luck and fertility, cake being exchanged is to show loyalty and devotion to one another.

What is a groom's cake?  A groom's cake is often a rich dark cake or a cake in the groom's favorite color, sport or hobby.  The groom's cake is a way to share the couple's good fortune and the sweetness of married life.

Why toast at a reception?  Toasting represents the collective best wishes of friends & family.  Toasts may be offered with any beverage, but champagne is a wedding favorite.  Raising a glass together is a way for everyone to share in wishing wellness & happiness to the newlyweds.

Why are there wedding favors?  The bride and groom are considered lucky, as is anything they touch.  Wedding favors are a way for the bride and groom to thank their guests for sharing in their happiness and to symbolically pass on their "good luck".

Why is the bouquet tossed?  The custom of tossing the bouquet is the modern day alternative to the old tradition of the "tearing of the wedding dress". In days gone by, single ladies would tear a piece of the brides dress for good luck. One can only imagine the fate of the brides gown at a large gathering! Thus the tossing of the bouquet is the modern alternative that allows the bride's gown to remain intact. It should not be forgotten that the lady who catches the bouquet is the next woman to be married.

Why is the garter tossed?  Like the bouquet toss, the garter toss is also a modern alternative to the less than savory tradition of old. In the old days, guests would follow the newlyweds to their room and wait for them to undress then take their stockings and toss them at the bride & groom.  The first male to hit the bride or groom with their stocking would be lucky and the next to marry; thus the garter toss.  The gentleman who catches the garter would be next to wed.

Why are shoes attached to the car?  Shoes represented power. Shoes signify the creation of a new family unit.  Shoes and cans were attached to the bumper of a car to cause a noisy clatter intended to drive off evil spirits.

Why is the bride carried over the threshold?  It was believed that evil spirits hovered at the threshold of the home the newlyweds would enter.  The bride was lifted over the entrance to keep the evil spirits from entering through her feet.

Why throw rice?  Rice and wheat symbolize fertility, prosperity and bounty.  Today guests throw rose petals, potpourri, wheat, millet seed and birdseed. Showering the newlyweds in bubbles or releasing birds, butterflies and ringing of bells replace rice today.

Why a Bridal Shower?  This custom is believed to have started in Holland, where legend has it that a disapproving father would not provide his daughter with a dowry so that she might marry a less-than-wealthy miller. Her friends provided her with the then-essential dowry by "showering" her with gifts.

Why have a Wedding Cake?  Wedding cakes originated in ancient Rome, where a loaf of wheat bread was broken over the brides head to symbolize hope for a fertile and fulfilling life.  he guests ate the crumbs, believed to be good luck.  The custom found its way to England in the Middle Ages.  Guests brought small cakes to a wedding; the cakes were put in a pile, where the bride and groom later stood over and kissed.  Apparently, someone came up with the idea of piling all the cakes together and frosting them, creating an early ancestor of the multi-tiered wedding cakes of today.

Why do the Bride and Groom Cut The Cake, Then Feed Each Other?  Feeding each other the cake symbolizes how the couple will "feed" and nourish the relationship for the rest of their lives. Now, this was meant as a loving and caring symbol for each other.  As for the "smearing" and pushing cake into each other's faces?  No one knows how that started...

Why have a Diamond Engagement Ring?  In medieval Italy, precious stones were seen as part of the groom's payment for the bride.  The groom would give a gift of such stones, which symbolized his intent to marry.

Why have a Bachelor Party?  Known today as the bachelor party, this celebration in the groom's honor was originally called the bachelor dinner, or stag party. It first came about in the fifth century, in Sparta, where military comrades would feast and toast one another on the eve of a friend's wedding. Even today, a bachelor party customarily takes place quite close to the actual wedding date, as it has become known as the groom's last taste of freedom".